tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3998932604249743916.post2427972331684130657..comments2022-11-09T10:10:17.759+00:00Comments on LOST: One Beast Breast: Number Five: The Rather Me than You…Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3998932604249743916.post-13526063536075864032011-04-05T19:12:17.022+01:002011-04-05T19:12:17.022+01:00Very proud of you sis! xxxxVery proud of you sis! xxxxUnknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14178345268969209881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3998932604249743916.post-12172549533538796722011-04-03T20:12:44.221+01:002011-04-03T20:12:44.221+01:00Your thoughts echo exactly my own experience and t...Your thoughts echo exactly my own experience and those of the women and their husbands I talked to during treatment.<br /><br />That (even despite problems with the health system), the women going through treatment just seemed to be getting on with it (without any hysterics) whilst their husbands were the ones who had trouble coping, and were often close to tears.<br /><br />I have thought about this a lot and decided that it's because, someone diagnosed with cancer enters a well-oiled machine, where people and (mostly) professional, kind, pleasant and reassuring. If one puts one faith into the system, there's nothing one can contribute to one's treatment except turn up when/where told.<br /><br />Whereas the partner/relative - as observer - doesn't get same the soothing voices and hands. They just have the worry.<br /><br />I also agree that there are many worse things to have besides breast cancer - that is, the kind that can be lopped out and there's no sign of spread. I have friends with chronic back pain or who have problems with their marriage. <br /><br />I also have a friend with a return of leukaemia with an uncertain future. He said he feels lucky because he has access to specialist treatment at a research hospital (whereas the on-paper approach for his situation is not to treat him) as well as a second bone marrow donation from his original donor.<br /><br />Maybe it's all relative?<br /><br /><br />Paolapaolabilityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17527561788514528499noreply@blogger.com